What school won’t teach you

Dear daughter,

You will excel at school. With robotic meticulousness  you will conquer all your educational milestones. You will win accolades and make my heart explode with pride. You will outshine all your peers and i will (joyfully) be at the receiving end of the hatred of all the other Mothers. You will emerge victorious when faced with the most daunting challenges and i will then take full credit for the shining star that you are #SorryNotSorry

But here are a few things that you probably won’t learn about in school, will be missing in any textbook you lay your hands upon and most definitely will not be discussed in any group discussions:

  1. People are selfish and they will use you. They will take your kindness for granted and you will end up with the short end of the stick. Be wise and protect yourself.
  2. You might not end up being one of the ‘popular kids’ and may not be invited to all the cool parties. Trust me when i say this, you aren’t missing out on too much. The popular kids are as insecure and confused as the rest of them. And they will end up working for you in the future, if you play your cards right!
  3. There will be occasions you will lie to me. You may want to do things or go places that you know we will not approve of. That is ok and i forgive you in advance. But just make sure you aren’t lying to yourself. Have conviction in your decisions and clarity in your thought-process.
  4. The boy you like, will not like you back. He will toy with your feelings and break your heart. This experience will make you realize how strong you are and how quickly you are able to get over somebody. It will however not teach you to choose any better.
  5. Your parents are not perfect. They sometimes make mistakes and refuse to admit to them. You may not always see the point of our actions. But you must believe that the outcome will always have your best interests at heart.
  6. Education is important, but knowledge is even more important. Being street-smart is crucial to your survival in the world and having an open mind to constantly learning will hold you in good stead throughout your life.
  7. Start working as early as possible. Having to work for your own money teaches you valuable life lessons. It could be a small part-time job. Start small, but stand on your own feet.
  8. Say ‘No’ to people, if that is how you feel. They will get over it. Don’t be a pushover.
  9. You and you alone are in charge of your happiness and peace of mind. Be kind to yourself and shower yourself with plenty of love and kind words. You deserve it and it is critical to your self-esteem. Nobody else should have the power to rock your boat.
  10. Adopt a dog. They will teach you that love fuels the soul like no other emotion.

Love always,
Mama

zuri

3 Comments Add yours

  1. Krishnan says:

    Wow what a mom!!😍😙🙌

    Like

  2. Zainab says:

    Wow, You my dear have some sound advice and valuable tips for ur bundle of joy, and I am so copy pasting them to share with mine 😉💖

    Like

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